Not Good Enough
Posted by Intuition Girl
Today you may have a financially-sound career and you may have earned the respect of your colleagues. But when you get home at the end of the day, you feel like something is missing from your life. Perhaps your personal life is empty – even if you have a significant other or “friends” on Facebook. Why do you feel the way you do? What triggers in your daily routine keep coming up that bring these past emotional wounds to the surface? Is it the stress of juggling career and home? Is it because you are the breadwinner and you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Or is it because deep inside, you just do not feel good enough to have something or be something better in your life?
Remember that little boy or girl who tried so hard to love and to be loved; and no matter what the child tried to do, it seemed to not be good enough for others? Some of you still battle with that child within. You may appear to have balanced lives, comfortable houses and nice cars… but your relationships are not whole or in harmony — primarily because within your inner being is that little boy or girl, who is still consciously or unconsciously clinging to past experiences. You put up a barricade so that others can never truly enter into your lives because you are fearful that you may be rejected, deprived, neglected or abused.
How do I overcome my anxieties, you ask? You begin by accepting the past hurts of your life and forgiving yourself and those around you who may have contributed to the feelings and the emotional wall that you have built around yourself. Even if you do not reconcile these issues in person, you only need to say aloud, “I accept who I am. I forgive those who have hurt 
me. I forgive myself for holding onto the feelings that I have created in my life. I am free.” Each time any triggers or emotions start creeping up in your life, repeat the mantra above. It will help you sort through your challenges and allow you to move forward guilt-free and uninhibited. Remember, only you have the power to overcome your emotional burdens. If you continue to focus on what is no longer a part of your life, you will build your metaphorical wall higher and higher until you can no longer see over it.
You are good enough. In fact, you are better than just “good enough”. You are unique in every way. When you begin to see beyond your emotional wall, you will finally be free from what has chained you for far too long.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie – your Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to:www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan –Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Life Lessons well Spent
Posted by Intuition Girl
In a day and age where technology appears to rule the day and the sky is virtually the limit in what we can achieve, I often find that young adults seem to have the most difficulty adapting to their new roles in life. Once young men and women get past raging hormones, acne and the feelings of peer acceptance – they are often still overwhelmed by the challenges and uncertainty of the times. It is easy for those of us, ripened with time and experience, to wonder how these feelings of lack and overwhelm can be so prolific in our youth. But given the nature of our socioeconomic environment, it is really no wonder at all. In fact, our high school and college graduates face a tough housing and job market. To them, everything is not as clear cut as it may have been for ourselves and those who came before us.
Ever heard that old adage about earning a degree at the College of Hard Knox? Those are some of the best life lessons well spent. For those of us who have been there, we might have some words of wisdom to share. We have seen and experienced what curve balls life can throw our way. Because of the encounters that many of us have experienced in the past, we just might be the perfect mentors to our youth during these difficult times if they are willing to listen to our words about the life lessons that we have faced. I am sure there are many wise people who have sound advice to offer those who need it the most.
So how do we help them create an attitude of gratitude even when the chips are stacked against them? Though it is an easy question to ask, the answer is not always so straightforward. That is when your life lessons can come in handy. In a lot of cases, you or someone you know may have faced a similar situation when the burdens of life just seemed too much to bear. How did you or another individual make it past the hurdle? What mental and proactive strategies did you employ to overcome these trials? Remember, there are no “right” or “wrong” answers…only suggestions to help mentor those who need it. Teaching an attitude of gratitude – no matter what the circumstances may be – is the definitive sentiment to encourage in these desperate times.
Timing is also always the key. Knowing when to say something is equally as important as lending the guidance itself. Obviously, you need to search for body signals to determine the most appropriate time to speak with the young adult(s) in your life. Deep inside that mind is a battle of the wits. S/he is still trying to gain her/his footing as to where s/he is, where s/he wants to be, and ultimately, how s/he is going to arrive there. If you jump too quickly, you may feed her/his fear. If you wait too long, s/he may simply give up.
Wait for an opportune time to share your own life stories – not to dismiss the real emotions and experiences of the young adult in your life – but to make them aware of the fact that s/he is not the only one going through such adversity and tough times. Help her/him to understand that there is light at the end of the proverbial tunnel; and that no matter what life hands her/him, s/he will come out of it okay if s/he is willing to go the distance and appreciate the blessings that s/he has in the here and now.
In the end, we are merely the watchtower in the bay. We can offer light and a pathway. The journey, however, is for the young adult alone to pave. These will be (her/his own) life lessons well spent.
Until we speak again, I am
Joan Marie, your Intuition Girl
© Life Lessons Well Spent
October 2011
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to:www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan –Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
When Darkness Falls
Posted by Intuition Girl
When you were little, were you afraid of the dark? It is okay to admit you were. Many of us have had fears about something we could not see, or we imagined to be real. Hallows Eve brings back memories of witches brew, candied apples, ghosts and ghouls, and everything in between. But for some of us, there are real fears of the unknown – fears from past trauma, fears of isolation, fears about loneliness and even fears about guilt. All too often, we would rather live with those constant fears than face them head on.
It is tough trying to wade through those murky waters. It is much easier just to forget what has made us so fearful and continue to live in those confines. We become complacent in fact, knowing that we can blame something or someone for the life choices we have made. But what happens when it becomes habitual? What I mean by that is what if you continue to repeat the same behavior and the same reactions time and time again – each time, with a worse outcome? Do you always blame that past event, situation or person for the choices you continue to make? More often than not, you probably are. It is actually quite convenient to say, “If it weren’t for so and so, I wouldn’t be in this situation.” Imagine however, if you really had to accept your own responsibility in what is happening in your life. Oh no, the dreaded, “I goofed up. I made a mistake.” The consequence of that is your acceptance to be responsible for the action or inaction. The ultimate outcome is a learning experience in which you can absolve yourself by forgiving yourself and moving forward. Once you do, you are ready to go beyond those confines and understand what it is you need to do the next time to successfully overcome it.
No more “boos” or demons in your life! From this day forward, I want you to take a proactive lead in your life to forgive your fears. Rise above your complacency and understand that you are making a full and conscious choice to take control of your life and the life decisions you will make. Remember, no one or nothing can make you do the things that you do, or feel the way you feel. The next time darkness falls, know that you are not be alone, but there just might be a lesson or message for you to figure out. You might need to step back and take a look at where you are in your life in an honest and truthful manner then take the steps to release the experience and prepare not to let it happen again.
© When Darkness Falls
October 2011
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan –Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Becoming as strong as the Rock
Posted by Intuition Girl
I often think of the Rock of Gibraltar as its history is as rich as the saying that often accompanies its beauty: “to be as strong as the Rock of Gibraltar”. When you have grown to become strong enough to overcome situations without fear of failure, you become a symbol of strength and courage to those around you. That is the greatest lesson that you can teach your child. No matter what challenges or hurdles come your way, you are going to show your child that through faith and inner strength, you can prevail no matter what.
No one is perfect and we all realize that. And even when we are faced with difficulties that make us feel less than superhuman, we know that again the sun will rise, the skies will clear and despite the hardships that come our way – we, too shall rise above the circumstance. It is when we give into our fears, our sorrows, our feelings of overwhelm that we get knocked off balances. We must always remember to be the “Rock”. Our children and those who put their trust in us see us as beacons, leaning posts, mentors, teachers and confidents. When we lose our own footing we cannot genuinely give them the strength and encouragement to become leaders in their own right. We must always remember that unlike Gibraltar, change is ever happening as do the events and relationships in our lives. Always stay true to yourself.
Laying the foundation
“But I’m not that strong, Joan Marie. I just don’t have it in me to face the challenges in my life,” you say? Ah, but you do. Actually, each day that you conquer that hurdle, you are one step closer to winning the race. You have ultimately already defeated those difficulties that would otherwise hinder you just by making it through the end of the day. Where are you now? Acknowledge the problems that you are encountering, embrace them, learn from them and grow. That’s it. That is the foundation to becoming stronger every day. You either learn from your trials and develop a sense of strength and courage to conquer them the next time, or you keep falling into the same trap with the “But I’m not that strong” self-pity bargaining chip. The choice is yours. Become like the Rock of Gibraltar and let nothing stop you from having joy, success and peace in your life. When your confidence shows, those around you will respect you and the Universal flow of energy will elevate you to where you need to be in life.
© Becoming as strong as the Rock
October 2011
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan –Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
Slam Dunk!
Posted by Intuition Girl
The ball is in your court. You have the opportunity to make a three-pointer from the goal line. At first there is a loud roar, and the other players are watching your every move. As your eyes focus on the net, the only thing stirring on your body is the bead of sweat rolling down your forehead. Just as quickly as the crowd roared, there is a sudden silence. Not even a hush can be heard around the court. The only thing between you and the net is your clear concentration to make the ball through the hoop. All your hard work and efforts have finally paid off. What you do with that ball at this moment is going to affect the outcome of the game…and maybe even your future as a professional ball player. Do you take the shot or do you walk away?
Nothing is impossible to those who believe. Do not refuse to move onward and upward to grab your greatness! Possibly you just say to yourself-I can’t do it-it is too hard! Dreams can become reality for you when you choose to manifest the power of you inner abilities and your inner soul. When you seek the courage in your heart like so many have done before you, you pave the way to achieving that what you truly desire in life. Do not forget that you are already standing on the court. The ball is either within reach or maybe even in your hands.
Whatever it is that you are choosing to pursue at this moment — a job, a new home, a relationship — is entirely within your own hands. You shape your reality…you choose your destiny. Are you going to take the shot? For what are you waiting? This moment will not last forever. At some point you must make that initial forward motion and keep the momentum going. Life waits for no one and the longer you stand in the same spot, the further you fall behind and the more you lose sight of your focus. I have said it before and I am saying it again, “keep it going. Keep it going.” Set your sights and take the shot at the goal — if you believe, nothing is impossible.
© Slam Dunk!
September 2011
By Joan Marie the Gift, Intuition Girl
About the Author: Joan Marie is the extraordinary lifestyle expert for everyday living. She travels throughout the United States sharing her gifts and her Lifestyle Makeover Programs with solo-preneurs, professionals, small business owners, and large companies. Her Manifestation Method Program and Lifestyle Makeover Programs are designed to help people change their lives. For more information about Joan Marie and her upcoming, exclusive events, please go to: www.joanmariethegift.com
Learn more about Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan –Intuitive Counseling and Intuition Coaching Specialist
