Intuition Girl

Joan Marie Whelan, dubbed the Intuition Girl, utilizes her intuitive gifts to help readers manifest the extraordinary lifestyles that they desire. On her blog, Joan posts a wealth of inspirational articles, videos, and podcasts.

Falling in Love all over again

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I am often asked, “How do I make my partner love me again?” First and foremost, you cannot “make” anyone love you. It is up to that individual whether or not s/he is going to “love” you. Remember too, that love in a relationship is not lost; more commonly, it is that other areas in the relationship have grown and developed to include additional family members, work projects, social commitments and the like. If you are truly in love with one another, the emotional attachment can frequently be strained because life, in general, expands. We become distant from each other as we are pulled by different directions and other people in our lives. The more mature we become, the more self-evolved we become as well. It is a process in life.

To “recapture” love in a relationship, you must get back to the roots of who you are, and what it was that captivated you about your significant other. It is not always the “s/he doesn’t love me anymore” scenario; quite contrary, if you are the seeker in the relationship, then perhaps it is you who must learn to come to terms with your own successes, failures, ambitions and fears.

Getting back to the basics means to take a timeout for yourself and your loved one to rediscover the uniqueness of your individualities, to explore the past, present and future together; to collectively commit to understanding one another, to redesign your dreams together; and to enjoy each other not the way you were, but in the new way that you are today. Think about grapes on a vine. The longer they hang in the warm sun, the sweeter they become with age. That is how relationships work. Perhaps you have differing work schedules, maybe you are both recently retired, or life as a whole has been throwing some monkey wrenches your way; the more you learn to co-create and cooperate with one another, the greater chances you will survive and thrive in your relationship.

9 Tips for Falling in Love All Over Again

Modern “norms” may not coincide with the life you have shared in your relationship. Perhaps spicing your relationship with some of these modern “norms” (and many tried and true) could revitalize your love life:

1. Send an impromptu text message saying how much you love your significant other.
2. Schedule a fun date through Facebook.
3. Plant a herb garden (or just a watermelon patch if you like) with each other.
4. Plan and make an escape (a vacation) to somewhere you have never been.
5. Hold hands in public more often.
6. Schedule a movie night at the drive-in. (No, your living room does NOT count.)
7. Cook dinner together (lasagna is always fun!)
8. Tell each other DAILY one thing that you find attractive about him or her.
9. Use Twitter to “Tweet” a special code word to your significant other that only s/he will know what it means.

In the end, if you are HONESTLY trying to make your relationship work, you will find happiness and the love you have been seeking.

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