Hi Joan, can you help me? I’m in love with a lovely woman she’s in love with me too.   She is with a guy that treats her bad and she doesn’t know how to get away from him. She loves me dearly. We see each other from a distance and see each other when we can. We want to be with each other forever. She just doesn’t know how to get out. He hits her and treats her bad. I treat her like a queen and she means the world to me and she loves it. Can you help – have you got a book or anything that can help us with our love can send to me to buy that will bring us together permanently? We only want to spend our lives’ together and be happy together. Thank you – have a lovely day.

Yours sincerely, Paul

We are soul mates that belong together

ANSWER

Dear Paul:

You and your friend may be soul mates but it is possible that you do not belong together.  Remember one very important message:  we all have free will to choose what we want to experience in our lives.  You tell me that your friend loves you and wants to be with you yet she chooses to remain with a person who is abusive and appears to be controlling.  Not until she makes the choice to change her life, will that happen in a positive way.  If she is living in fear, then she needs to go to the authorities and seek protection.  To get out of a harmful situation means simply walking away.  I realize that this may seem simplistic but it is a great truth.  Is she staying with him because she feels indebted or secure?  There can be many possibilities that come to mind so I say to you, Paul, unless this person is willing to give up what she is currently experiencing, you should move on and find a relationship that will better serve you, your life and bring you joy.

Blessings,

Joan Marie, the Gift – Intuition Master

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How do I deal when someone questions/doubts my integrity?

I am in the process of suing someone and did everything, I was supposed to; however, when I asked regarding the payment, I was told to wait, until my papers were received in the court.

Thanks,     Maria

ANSWER:

Dear Maria:

Integrity is a very noble characteristic trait that we all should desire to possess.  Sometimes in life it is not a question of believing in you and your side of the story as it is in believing that their side of the story has greater value and merit to them.  I do not know your entire situation to comment properly; however, I can say, that life does often require a bit of give and take.  If you are suing someone because you believe you are right, it is possible that your motive may be honest and noble but in reality it might be better to walk away or be willing to pay an attorney, court expenses and other types of fees just to prove your point.

The Universe knows your heart and will ultimately help you find solace and peace.  Being right doesn’t always get you the result that you are seeking.  Being wise does, it helps you accept the solution that will allow you to forgive and live with inner peace.

Blessing to you on your journey,

Joan Marie the gift, Intuition Master

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Joan Marie…I just love you and would really enjoy meeting you…maybe one of these days I will?!   Anyway – my question to you is years ago I was told that my guardian angel is a relative of mine, now of course when I heard that I asked: “well who is it?”  I was then told I’m the only one who would know that and sorry to say I don’t know who it is. I’m very curious and would appreciate your help with this if you can!?

Thanks a million and God bless you and your family

Donna L. Berry

ANSWER

Dear Donna:

Each one of us has a Guardian Angel who looks after us, possibly is even our personal assistant who is from the other realm.  We can have more than one angel who watches over us and who helps us out in various ways. We can also have a deceased relative who has chosen to be an angel to us and guide our journey while we are earth bound.    I believe you can ask, especially when you go to sleep at night for your guardian angel or your family angel to speak to you and reveal itself to you.  You will begin to sense their presence and their guidance.

Different religions have brought up angels and you can trace their existence through antiquity.  I cannot tell you exactly who is guiding you and assisting you in your life, but it is true, that you will have to be diligent in your pursuit of this information.  Angels are messengers from God.  They are with us to help us on our journey but we MUST ask them for their help and we MUST let them know what we are seeking because we have free will.  They will not interfere with our lives unless we ask.  Having said that, I will restate again, ask your angel or family member if they are with you and ask if they will let you know about their involvement in your life.

Be persistent and specific in what you are seeking and you will receive your answer in a sign, a thought, a feeling, a heartfelt knowing.  It will come to you.

Blessing to you on your journey,

Joan Marie the gift, Intuition Master

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Joan Marie,

I can honestly answer the question that if I had money I would not stay in my marriage.  Neither my husband nor I are happy but I think we stay because we have children (and me because it’s more financially secure).  We had an argument yesterday and he mentioned that we both messed up by getting married to each other because I’m not the one for him and he’s not the one for me.  I feel the same way.  I can even look back and see that there were flashing stop signs all over the place in the beginning and throughout our relationship before we even got married.  The classic case of “I wish I knew then what I know now”.

I was confiding in an older lady friend (someone like a mother figure) who put it pretty bluntly that I might as well just stay because no one else out there is going to want me because I have three children.  She says that’s too much baggage and it’s easier to have two incomes than just one.  I’m scared to stay and let my life pass me by and I’m scared to leave and face the unknown and struggle with financial issues.  I feel trapped.

Any advice?

Thank you.

Elizabeth

ANSWER:

Dear Elizabeth:

I thought your question was brilliant!  My mom is going to answer this one because she, too, experienced a marriage that didn’t work.  I, therefore, believe that she is the right person to address your concerns.

Dear Elizabeth – When I read your question, I completely understood the tug in your heart and the unhappiness that you are experiencing.  Both you and your husband have agreed that your marriage is not working.  As I see it, you have two choices:

One to take measures to work it out, such as counseling, which also requires a change in both of your attitudes and behavior as well as in changing the environment in your home or separation; whether that results in divorce or not.  If both of you are in agreement that this union should have never taken place and both of you want to see a change, then both of you will need to sit down – communicate in a civil tone and mannerism and work on your alternatives.

My dear friend, a choice based on fear cannot be one of your decisions.  If you are only willing to stay in this relationship because of a strong sense of security, then you will never be happy or feel content.

I divorced my first husband with four young children ages 2-7 and at the time, I hadn’t worked during those seven years.  I started a new career with an investment from a friend of $500.00, which I paid back, and the rest is history.

It would be foolish and false for me to say that this is going to be easy because it is not.  I made a decision, and from that day forward I knew that I must take responsibility for the outcome for my four children and myself.  My husband did not support us financially even though he did move out of the house.  I picked myself up by the bootstraps, so to speak, and for the next eight years I worked very long hours both on the job and as a Mom.  We became a family of five and all of my free time was spent nurturing and supporting my children.  It was only after eight years when I was stable and secure in my own right that I was able to meet and spend time with others.  I did re-marry and my four children benefited from that union.

You have a lot of thinking to do.  This is not an easy decision.  There are many factors that need to be examined by you and I encourage you to be realistic.   It is my personal opinion that a mother‘s primary responsibility is to her children, then to her spouse.  I took that responsibility very seriously and I never wavered from it.  Yes, it was hard.  Yes it was exhausting and no, I had no family support.  Whatever choices you and your husband make, please remember that you still can be a family with your three children and they can still feel safe and secure even if you do not always experience those same thoughts.

Seek guidance from God and the angels.  They will most definitely help you on your journey if you ask them.  Ask for courage, strength and guidance.  Nothing is impossible if you truly believe.

Many blessings to you,

Joan Marie Ambrose, the MOM

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Dear Joan Marie:

There is so much talk about bullying in the media and the news. Many young people are feeling left out, lost and often lonely because they do not feel connected to their peers or their environment. Fear, embarrassment and hurtful feelings often surface because of it.

I have felt those emotions during my youth but I never put a name to them. In fact, because I felt so alone and not understood, I spent a great deal of my time avoiding interaction with others because I didn’t know how to fit in. Even my siblings looked at me strangely and I often resented their insensitivity to me.

That isolation has caused me great sadness over the years but now I have a better understanding of who I am. I now realize that I do have something special to offer others and the world but I have not released those feelings of sadness, resentment and lack.

My question is how do I begin to forgive and release those emotions so I can finally live a life of freedom?
I look forward to hearing from you. Mary Ellen R.

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Dear Mary Ellen:

Your question is timely— this is why I decided to have my new 5-Week Program that is going on right now and it is completely on the topic of forgiveness.

Too often people misunderstand what forgiveness means and mostly they do not envision its benefits and value to self–the one who is doing the forgiving.

I consider the act of forgiveness as a purging of the old from your mind so that you can cleanse and rid yourself of all toxic and poisonous thoughts and feelings that are stopping your completeness.

Once you become aware that your distress and the re-run of your old story is coming from hurt feelings, thoughts and bottled up emotions from the past not from suffering or pain that you are experiencing today, you will begin to move towards your personal healing. Forgiveness breaks the cycle of anger, resentment and isolation and it helps you enjoy the peace and contentment that lingers long after the act of letting-go has begun.

The first step in the process is in making a choice. It is clear to me that you have done that by reaching out to me. I actually have a single CD on forgiveness that has a powerful meditation that will help you release and heal and I also have a 3-CD series that takes you through a process. Both tools I highly recommend.

Many Blessings to you on your journey,

Joan Marie, the Gift

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If we pass on to the next dimension i.e., “heaven,” then why aren’t we able to “clear” away past life issues over there on the other side instead of taking them with us into this current life time?

Thanks!

Jo Ann
Huntington, New York

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Dear Jo Ann:

This is a great question. When we die it does not mean our problems go away; in fact, it is quite the contrary. In the other realm, we actually continue with the same problems or situations that we left off with on the earthly plane. It would be helpful for each one of us to understand that our past experiences dissolve only when we have recognized them and learned how to accept and deal with them. We all must understand when we come back to earth or when we die the only thing that changes is the location of where our energy is placed. What this means is when we come back to earth we are here to heal our soul, cleanse our energy field and continue to learn and grow. The key for all of us is to purify our soul and this happens when we truly understand who we are. So many of us come back over and over again with the same issues or problems because we haven’t discovered how to identify with or heal from them. When the light is revealed and we finally get it we are better prepared to create differently.

One life lesson for you may even be courage to accept your true purpose—to fulfill your soul’s destiny of being a healer and teacher. I feel that in the past you did not have the support to do this and now you have come back to stand tall, walk forward and fulfill your destiny.

I hope all of this makes sense.

Many Blessings,

Joan Marie, the Gift

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Dear Joan Marie:

My husband is ALWAYS mad at me. It seems that I am the blame for everything wrong in his life and in our relationship. If I submit, it’s never enough and if I don’t, I never doing anything for him (talk about a catch 22). According to him, I run around for everyone else and do nothing for him. We’ve been together for 13 years and married going on 6. Our relationship has always been rocky and we’ve gone to marriage counseling and I even went to individual counseling to work on my personal baggage but it seems as if even when things change they stay the same.

I am NOT perfect by far, but I have done a lot of compromising to accommodate his complaints, but even that goes unnoticed. Every time I change something about myself he has a new complaint about me.

There are things that I believe in and since he doesn’t he calls them bull. For example, I used to light candles and pray for people, he called it black magic, so I stopped. I still pray for people but now I don’t use candles.

The whole situation is getting to the point of “why bother”. I’ve changed, compromised, communicated and it’s as if I’m beating a dead horse. Sometimes I feel like what he really needs in a wife/partner is a robot (someone who can be programmed to accommodate his needs only and have none of their own).

Thanks for the shoulder!
EH

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Hi Joan Marie,

I would just love for someone to intuit what my blockage is with money. However, because of it, I have no resources (including no credit). Sometime ago, I wrote about how scared I was because of my money situation.

I hope you are open to helping me out, I would be forever grateful.

Thank you,
Denise

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Dear Denise:

Please know that your money situation is not just related to “Money or Currency.” It goes far deeper than that! You need to look at all areas in your life and question what is flowing and working for you and what is not because it seems to me that you have blockage in other areas as well which you have been ignoring.

It might be helpful for you to look carefully at your relationships and those with whom you spend time. How do people around you make you feel and do they also experience lack in their lives?

How do you feel about you? Is your life consistently moving in a specific direction and flow or are you going against the grain?

The most important question you need to be asking yourself is: “Do I value myself?” And if so, what does this mean and look like to you? I also encourage you to examine your relationship with money not only today but in the past? Has it always been a struggle for you and where is the root of the problem stemming from?

The only way for you to heal your money issues is to study all areas in your life that are not in harmony? I encourage you to believe and also to feel with all your heart as though money belongs to you and at the same time, it is important for you to be open to receiving money into your life.

It is a Universal Law –“What you continually think about is what you will create”; therefore, you cannot put energy out into the world that you are desperate and you are always in need of money because that is what you are creating.

It is time for you to stop running! I encourage you to sit down and create a plan of action that will work for you and that you believe is possible if you desire to create consistent flow in your life. Release what is not working so you can make room to bring in what can work for you today. By the way, this does not take money! It takes discipline and persistence.

Many Blessings,

Joan Marie the gift

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Joan Marie, your newsletters have truly inspired me and I wanted to reach out at this time in my life when I am seeing a big boulder sitting right in front of me. I push people away and I am resistant to great advice and suggestions when they are presented to me. Please help me see through my fears so I can understand why I push people and opportunities away. I am so grateful for your help.

Karen H., Chicago

Answer:

Dear Karen:

Thank you for your beautiful note. So many of us push away our many gifts and opportunities without even realizing it; however, your awareness is a blessing and a chance for you to flow more easily. Pushing people away is a form of protecting yourself from getting hurt. Please look at all the people that hurt you and see the patterns you have created. Have you put yourself in a box hoping to keep everyone else out? That is your protection mechanism so you will not get hurt. It is almost as if you are walking around wounded and saying I won’t let anyone hurt me again.

I also encourage you to look at your need to be right or maybe you unconsciously feel that “I know it all.” The greatest opportunity for all of us is to become a student and listen to others suggestions and/or critiques. If you honestly believe that a suggestion does not feel right to you than yes, by all means respect that. However, my feeling for you is once you open up your heart to receive a helping hand many more opportunities will come your way.

Life is about giving and receiving—allow yourself to be in alignment for both and watch the flow of blessing come to you.

Many Blessings,

Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuitive Coaching Specialist

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Hi Joan Marie:

Thank you for your newsletters…I really enjoy them and always find them helpful. I was wondering if you could offer any advice for dealing with a problem that I’ve confronted many times in my life. I’m generally a very gentle and kind person, but when I run across rude people I often feel the need to confront them, whether their rudeness is directed toward me, a friend of mine, or even a stranger. It’s not that I want to fight or argue with anyone, but I guess I feel that if I call them on their behavior that maybe I will be able to say something that will resonate with them and make them see how wrong they are. I know it’s not my job to try to change people’s behavior, though (and of course, calling out rude people on their behavior usually just makes them even more angry).

What’s the best, most positive way to deal with those sorts of situations? Confronting people has not usually proven to be constructive, so how can I learn to save my sanity and not take other people’s bad behavior to heart?

Blessings to you, Mary Scott

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Dear Mary:

In life it is important for us to remember that we are all mirrors of each other. Therefore, if someone is being rude the best thing you can do is to take a step back and see where in you does this resonates. I am sure you are surprised by my answer and maybe even shocked but the truth is if someone is bothering you it is because you have unfinished business within yourself that needs to be dealt with. The Universe has a clever way of getting our attention.

In life it is healthy for all of us to become observer’s of others and not necessarily participants in someone else’s movie. One thing I can offer is for you to have loving, compassionate conversations with those you feel are rude and talk with them about it, that is, talk about their tone and what they are saying and how it affects you. After all that is who you are really talking about. Once you heal that aspect within yourself, rude individuals will not affect you.

Many Blessings,

Certified Master Intuitive Joan Marie Whelan – Intuitive Counseling and Intuitive Coaching Specialist

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